Venting ;)

Hi Guys!

It is very rare I will do a post to vent. I try, in my life and always, to stay as positive as possible even when situations are EXTREMELY difficult.

But this hit close to home, and I do just need to vent.

Let me start by saying, I understand 100% adoption is not for everyone. Trust me, a year ago, I would have said the SAME exact thing. However, when you are in the situation we are in, your thought process is completely different.  We have dreamed of having a child for our whole life. Even before we met each other. Why should an illness stop us from that dream?

I have heard the following comments in the past 24 hours that make me really sick to my stomach:

"Why are you adopting if you do not have all of the adoption money?"
"I think it is selfish you are waiting just for a newborn"
"Why not just cheat on Kurt, get pregnant, and just don't tell him" (heard this more than once)

Those are just a few. Seriously? Like I said, I get it, it might not be for you, but these are crazy things to say!  I found this on another adoption forum and had to share:

"Giving birth does not make you a mother, true love for a child grows in your heart, not your tummy."

I also want to be clear and say I LOVE QUESTIONS. This is a HUGE learning process for us too and we are not professionals at adoption. I love answering everyone's inquiries about our status, where we are at, how long it will take, etc.  But keep in mind, it is the golden rule to treat others how you would want to be treated.

Thanks for allowing me to vent and sticking with my thought process right now and reading it! ;)